Accepting things for what they are.

Hello, I’m back! I have taken a couple of weeks off from both writing and work and during this time I’ve been given some space to reflect on a few areas of my life, as well as what’s happening in the wider world.

It is amazing how quickly life moves on in just two weeks. The escalation of the tensions between the US and North Korea, a call for a snap general election here in the UK, France now have two totally different political parties fighting for votes in their general election and large numbers of foreign fighters and sympathisers are abandoning the Islamic State and trying to enter Turkey, just to name a few. Keeping up with these developments is a full-time job in its own right, that’s what journalists are paid to do, so trying to make any sense of it on a part-time basis is near-on impossible.

We are, however, compelled to try and understand these things, especially when at the end of a dedicated time-frame there is an important choice to make, such as our general election, but the volume of noise polluting and distorting the facts makes that job of understanding all the more complex.

I have therefore joined hundreds of other like-minded people in my slightly nonchalant acceptance of what’s happening and said “I will make up my own mind as and when I need to put my cross on the ballot paper arises. I won’t try to impress my opinions and viewpoints on anyone else, that is the job of a politician, one from which they earn a living. All I will say is that each and every one of us, who is eligible to vote, should go out there and do so. Only then will a fair representation of the general public’s will, become apparent. No matter what that will is, or has become”

Taking this to a deeper level by accepting my feelings as they unfold and not the cause of those feelings, I am able to use the phrase, ” I accept these things for what they are”. This allows me to create a space for those feelings to develop and show themselves for what they truly are. When I investigate these further I can stop reacting to the initial “fight, flight, freeze” instructions and start to uncover what’s really going on.

This practice has proven to be very helpful during my time alone with my two little ones too, during which there were far more smiles than tears. Now I would dare to say that this constitutes to an excellent way to spend your time off and a great way to recharge your batteries for the next 1/4.

TGL

Take your time, if you want to speed things up.

I am a fairly recent meditation convert! For me, it has become a habitual part of my day and without it, I no longer feel as though I have maximised my potential for that day. It is quite astonishing how much more I have been able to achieve purely by taking more time out to complete a human defrag.

Keeping on topic about AI, which we’ve been covering over the last few posts, I think the analogy of a defragmentation is perfect. Most of you will have experienced the effect of running a defrag on your PC at one point in time and you will have experienced how much quicker it becomes as a result. So imagine doing this on a daily basis in your head. The time spent doing it is such a positive investment as results are increasingly demonstrating to me on a daily basis.

The mind is, of course, itself a computer and one which is far more complex than the manufactured ones we use in our daily working life. So imagine how many broken fragments of information are scattered within it and how crazy the filing systems and archives are which are used to retrieve this information. By taking the time to become more present and to start registering thoughts without acting upon them, we gain an amazing ability to reset and restore those fragments in a much more balanced environment. This makes the recollection of them more readily accessible and is the main reason why the art of slowing down to speed up works so well.

When you continue with this practice, the mind, body and soul all gradually begin to work in unison and things that were previously viewed as highly important, frequently end up on a metaphorical leaf floating away down the river into the infinity of “none-pertinent”

So in a similar vein, the decluttering of my CRM over these last few months has revealed some significant leaf floaters, ones where my energy of the past has been misguided and has consequently now been refocussed on areas which are far more important. This has been one of a series of recent exercises which have yielded far more progression than my previous status quo of trying to do a little bit of everything for everyone.

So yes, my life is still very busy and prioritising is still a must, but by slowing things down and taking time out to meditate I have found that I’ve managed to find more time and not lost time. If you haven’t tried it, don’t knock until you do and if you have tried it but it didn’t work, then maybe seek some professional guidance because I can assure you, it really does work.

Remember! In sales the only real finite resource you have is time, so use it wisely.